It is almost a definition of a gentleman to say he is one who never inflicts pain. This description is both refined and as far as it goes, accurate. He is mainly occupied in merely removing the obstacles which hinder the free and unembarrassed action of those about him; and he concurs with their their movements rather than takes the initiative himself.His benefits may be considered as parallel to what are called comforts or conveniences in arrangements of a personal nature: like an easy chair or a good fire, which do their part in dispelling cold and fatigue, though nature provides both means of rest and animal heat without them. The ture gentleman in like manner carefully avoids whatever may cause a jar or a jolt in the minds of those with whom he is cast;- all clashing of opinion, or collision of feeling, all restraint, or suspicion,or gloom, or resentment; his great concern being to make every one at their ease and at home.He has his eyes on all his company: he is tender towards the bashful, gentle towards the distant, and merciful towards the absurd; he can recollect to whom he is speaking; he guards against unseasonable allusions,or topics which may irritate; he is seldom prominent in conversation, and never wearisome. John Henry Newman: The Idea of a University