When you love someone, you might have to make compromises. You might have to rearrange your priorities. You might have to rethink the way you want your future to look. 當(dāng)你深愛一個(gè)人，你可能不得不妥協(xié)，你可能要重設(shè)你的輕重緩急，你可能不得不重新考慮你希望你未來的樣子。 But loving someone doesn’t mean you give up everything for?them. 但愛一個(gè)人，不代表你要為他們放棄你的所有。 You should not have to sacrifice your dreams in order to keep your relationship strong. The right person for you should support your career goals. They should be your biggest supporter. They should be standing behind you, ready to catch you when you fall and shove you back onto your feet. They should inspire you to keep trying when you are debating whether you are wasting your time. They should make you feel like you are capable of anything. 你不應(yīng)該為了維系你們之間的關(guān)系而犧牲自己的夢想。如果Ta是那個(gè)對(duì)的人，Ta會(huì)支持你的事業(yè)，會(huì)是那個(gè)最支持你的人。Ta會(huì)站在你身后，在你跌倒時(shí)抓住你，支撐你。當(dāng)你猶猶豫豫，不知是否只是浪費(fèi)時(shí)間時(shí)，Ta應(yīng)該為你鼓勁。Ta應(yīng)該鼓勵(lì)你可以勝任一切事情。 Loving someone does not mean you have to stop loving the parts of life that don’t involve them. You are allowed to have hobbies. You are allowed to have passions. You are allowed to have friends. 愛一個(gè)人，并不意味著你必須摒除那些Ta不感興趣的愛好。你可以有自己的興趣愛好，你可以擁有激情，你可以交朋友。 Your person shouldn’t push you away from your social circle. There should still be times when you get drinks with your friends from college. There should still be occasions when you grab brunch with your mother one-on-one. You should still live your own life. 你愛的Ta不應(yīng)該讓你遠(yuǎn)離你的社交圈，你仍然可以和大學(xué)的朋友們出去喝點(diǎn)東西，你仍然可以和你的媽媽出去吃個(gè)早午餐，你仍然擁有你自己的生活空間。 Loving someone does not mean you make them the center of your universe. 愛一個(gè)人，并不意味著Ta就是你宇宙的中心。 Even though you should look forward to spending time with them that does not mean you have to spend every second of your time with them. You do not have to invite them to every place you go. You are allowed to separate. You are allowed to wander away from each other as long as you are still respecting each other while you’re gone. 盡管你期待與他們共度時(shí)光，但這也不意味著你的每一分每一秒都得和Ta膩在一起，你不需要邀請(qǐng)Ta去你要去的每一個(gè)地方。你們可以分開一下，只要你們尊重彼此，你們不非得膩在一起永不分開。 It’s healthy to have space. It’s better to live your own lives, to be your own people, than to accidentally get so tangled up with each other that you are unable to function when you are apart. 擁有自己的空間才是健康的關(guān)系，過自己的生活，做更好的自己，遠(yuǎn)比膩在一起相互糾纏要好的多。 The right person for you will?want?you to have your own life. They will?want?you to be happy, even when they are out of your eyesight. They will find your independence attractive. They will be relieved that they don’t have to hold your hand in order for you to make it through the day okay. 那個(gè)對(duì)的Ta會(huì)希望你擁有自己的生活，會(huì)希望你過的開心，即使你在Ta的視線之外。Ta會(huì)發(fā)掘你的理性獨(dú)立，Ta也會(huì)覺得輕松，因?yàn)門a不必時(shí)時(shí)握著你的手給予你動(dòng)力。 You don’t have to give up everything you love for your relationship, because there is enough room in your world for your forever person?and?for your friends?and?for your career. You can have it all. You don’t have to choose one over the other.? 你不必為了一段關(guān)系而放棄你熱愛的一切，因?yàn)樵谀愕氖澜缋?，你愛的人，你的朋友，和你的事業(yè)，空間都是足夠的。你不必只選擇其中一個(gè)，因?yàn)槟憧梢該碛幸磺小?/div>